Sometimes crawling into a shell can be a welcome relief a safe haven from chaos, calamity, and crisis. Currently I’m binge watching Netflix’s The Crown Series 5 which centers around the early to mid 1990s of the Royals’ lives. 1992 was a particularly horrendous year for Queen Elizabeth: three of her four children were separated and/or divorcing their spouses and Windsor Castle caught on fire. I gather from the series that honor and duty reigned over family for the late Queen. The public’s perception of the Royal family is ambiguous at best.
But perception is a funny prickly thing. Many grey areas engulf what we believe and process of other people. Even knowing people intimately and intrinsically can lead to dire consequences. If I look back on my worst year it would be 2013. A failed marriage, body changes, depression, anger, general fear for my life and a death all culminated in a year I never want to repeat.
From my annis horribilis I did learn a lot about myself. Perhaps a given to some or maybe I’m a slow learner but I found out you reep what you sow or be careful what you wish for. Settling for someone you aren’t in love with nor loves you only breeds contempt. Adversity is a harbinger of growth, germination, and gain. No pain no gain as it’s been noted.
Was there an annis horribilis for you and what lesson(s) were learned?
Stay safe stay well ❤️❤️❤️
Hubby left me, daughter had anorexia, son got involved in drugs and threatening to kill me, which was pretty lame as my wrists looked like they’d been carved up by then. Yep but I survived and realised I don’t need anyone.
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😢I hope that dreadful year finished a long time ago. Wishing you and your kids a better future. 😘🙏🤲❤️
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Thank you, it’s just a memory now
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You are amazing! I think these events strengthen our character so if we can survive then we can survive anything
Hugs to you Deb❤️
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Thanks Michele
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❤️sending hugs 🤗
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Hell, Michele! Who hasn’t had at least one of those? Good write; I can relate mightily. Read my story “Broken Glass”, take two aspirin and call me in the morning. 🤣
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Will do. It helps for me to blog stuff like this as a reminder how fortunate I am
Thank you Nancy ❤️
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For someone worth halt a billion, I wouldn’t feel sorry for her. Cold? Hungry? Bad day at the food bank?
I never had an annus horribilis – my life is perfect!
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Well it wasn’t really about the Queen it was more about over coming setbacks but I’m glad your life is perfect 😉😁
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I think we all have setbacks, the point I’m making is that we just need to smile and tackle them. There’s not really any other option.
I certainly had no time for this privileged woman whining.
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She is privileged yes.
It’s hard though to smile all the time
I don’t like to think of the other option 😢
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You seem to manage it!
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😁facade baby facade you should have seen me last night 😂😂
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That almost sounds like an offer I couldn’t refuse 🤣🤣🤣
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Amazing what the human body and mind can survive! I think we have all had our trials by fire, one
way or another. I know I had mine and the only thing I know is all the crap is what made me as I
am today and I think it’s a pretty decent human being. As long as I keep my compassion and empathy I think I will survive. I lift a glass to all of us who have been put through the wringer of life and came out the other end still in one piece.
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Yes that’s an excellent point because I think we do come out stronger and I am more empathetic too
You’ve gone through health wise some huge stuff and are always positive ❤️
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2013 was a dreadful year for my family too, due to the sudden death of my dear 16.5 year olds nephew (teenage sudden cardiac arrest in his sleep). It feels like both a long time ago and yesterday at the same time. I’m sorry you had such a dreadful year and hope you and your family never experience anything like that again. 😪🙏🤲❤️
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Thank you Zed! I learned a lot from that time most of it I kept from my parents so they wouldn’t worry about me. I’m sorry about your nephew. 😢
I agree with you 💯 % about it feeling long time ago and yesterday at same time
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I agree about feeling long ago and just yesterday. I feel that for all the siblings that i have lost along with mum and dad. I think its a common experience to feel that way.
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Yes I think so too. Definitely stays in the memory bank
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That sounds like a truly awful year. Glad you came out OK on the other side!
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Thank you Esther me too ! 😁❤️
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